Gratitude and Grace
It’s a rainy grey day. Again.
We’ve seen so much rain and thoughts of climate change are always lurking. Everything seems permanently damp and there's plenty of opportunity to use one of my favourite words, petrichor: The smell of the earth after the rain. Yet, even in this the dampest of days, so much to be grateful for.
The word gratitude has become rather trendy. Gratitude diary, 'attitude of gratitude' - you’ve probably seen these things mentioned frequently recently. But why is it that people are realising that it’s so important to be grateful?
What Makes You Happy?
If you ever meditate, enjoy a sport, get lost in a book or a film, you know what it feels like to be totally immersed in feelings of happiness. We release feel-good hormones at these times- serotonin, oxytocin and neurotransmitters like dopamine - all of which help us to feel happy, calm, safe and content.
If you sit for a moment and truly allow a feeling of gratitude to flood your heart, the same thing occurs. When oxytocin levels are raised wonderful things happen on physiological levels. Research has shown it improves circulation because it is a vasodilator, and this is good for heart health.
Everything is Energy!
Everything!- You, me, the chair you sit on, the table, -all composed of atoms vibrating at various frequencies. The energy of your happiness has a frequency too. Those living with ease and grace give off a certain quality that attracts others. And those carrying deep sadness are easy to spot too. Why do we get so affected?
Do you remember those office desktop toys in the 70s?
'Newton’s Cradle', I believe they were called. Metal balls suspended from a metal frame, all hanging at equal lengths, and if you pick the one on the end to swing and hit the rest it sets them all off in motion. At first it is chaos: balls clanging everywhere, fast and slow but very soon you know that it becomes synchronised until all the balls are swinging together in exactly same time. This phenomenon is called entrainment.
The reason I mention it is that energy may change its frequency, according to the movement of objects around it.
If this is true for all matter and all energy is matter, then our frequency of happiness and gratitude can create change around us as other frequencies alter to fit it. Good News! If we use it right.
State of Grace
Deciding to experience gratitude may seem a strange thing to do. If you have to make a decision to do it, perhaps you feel it’s going to be fake? The thing is, the brain does not know the difference between real and fake in this sense. Studies have shown that experiencing fear from a movie, for example, produces the same response in the brain, as if it were a real event you were experiencing.
Doesn’t it make sense that we should create feelings of gratitude in order to change our environment? You know what happens when you ‘get out of bed on the wrong side’! Everything seems to go wrong after that. If you’re in a bad mood, you attract moody people and things just don’t go so well. And on a good day, when you feel in the flow of life, you just know - all is well. You feel light and clear. You could call it a state of grace.
Perhaps you find it a struggle to get from a feeling of dissatisfaction to gratitude… which would make you quite normal. But if you do, you might want to try this 'zooming out' technique?
When I feel overwhelmed and things seem to be getting on top of me, I imagine I can zoom out and away just like a giant camera on my life. Imagination is so powerful – everything we know we are going to do exists only in our imagination! This zooming out technique is just simple way of gaining a new perspective. It can really help you to see that in fact despite the little things in the big picture, all is well, and then gratitude for that can be found more easily.
LOA - what's that?
They say if you write down three things that you are grateful for every day, you will literally change your brain. The neural pathways will change from defaulting to negative thought patterns, and instead follow the new path of least resistance -gratitude. It’s all a question of making it a habit. It takes a bit of effort, but if you want to feel happier and have more good things come to you in life, gratitude for what you already have could be the answer.
If you’re aware of the Law of Attraction (LOA) you will know this already. The thing about the Law of Attraction is that you must do more than just want something .
It used to be said if you wanted it enough, you can have it. If you write it down, if you put it on your fridge, if you recite it like a mantra you will receive it. But there is another vital step to this spiritual law. In order to create the correct frequency for what you want, you need to FEEL how you would feel as if you as if you had already received it!!
As you probably know, like attracts like.
Three things. Every day.
And watch what happens!